Why do some guys treat girls so badly?

Men come many varieties between men who idolize the ground women walk on(1), men who are traditionally gentlemen to put women first and encourage, listen to, and abide by them(2), men who are, in my opinion weak, who just tell women whatever they want to hear as beta males, who never have any boundaries or standards, they are just submissive no matter what as they will literally do anything women say, as he will never argue, he defends her no matter what, she is always right sort of mentality(3), men who ignore women as basically children and humor to play with them not to hurt their feelings or see them cry(4), men who treat women like a tool, spank their rear ends, only use them for sex, see women as basically things(5), men who treat women badly by verbal manipulation(6), men who treat women badly by physical abuse and fear of inferiority, to hurt them to feel dominant over them for their own insecurity of being pathetic and weak as a man, to feel better about himself in dominance(7), men who lie to women to go to bed with them, saying they are wealthy, have everything they ever wanted, and will marry them, just to play on superficial materialistic women's favorite piano notes just to go to bed with him(8), men who physically and mentally abuse women(9), men who are the perfect man by women's standards who have everything, do everything right by women, having all the things women want and being the perfect partner(10), men who are players to soul search for the right woman who connects with him to marry that one(11), men who don't go out much who never leave the house, living in their mothers basement role playing with D&D cards and magic the gathering, completely lost in his own imagination to give women the time of day, as he is completely straight, but he is very shy, as he uses his wild imagination to escape reality suffering from an acute form of Peter Pan syndrome, but fantasizes and dreams about women coming into him, but he doesn't even know how to make the initiative other than on online(12), men who act completely homosexual in every way, but are completely straight(13), men who dress in drag as chick's, acting like a superficial materialistic woman, as you can swear up and down he is completely gay, but he is completely straight(14), men who are kind of pathetic in my opinion, who are just strait up pervs, who run around to stripper joints and places with chick's who basically sleep with everyone, to get boob and ass pictures to masturbate to, who only go for one night stands with pervs of women(15, Yes women can be pervs too, I met a fare share of them actually, they are always horny seemingly like 24/7).

I actually looked into this one personally.

From my personal studies of this one, and mind you, this is not what I originally wanted to know, I originally wanted to know how women thought to figure them out, but all these things just appeared right in front of my face, I honestly didn't want to know, but it was like the situation was basically telling me “This is the way it is, deal with it, this is all you are going to see”, so I started taking notes, what else you supposed to do. It was like it was a distraction from the main question, but I learned everything about it, even though I didn't want to, but some things never go away until you collect all the data, then they leave you alone, which is exactly what happened.

Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.

Then of course, like you said, guys who treat women badly. What I discovered about this topic actually shocked me, but it is completely true. Men make the initiative, while women are the decision makers of who they choose to be with, and most of the time, it is not the men who make the decision, it is the women, through and through, but what I find out in this long study, is women don't choose the guys who treat them good, I heard statements by some women saying the right good guy is dull and boring, as they want someone to dominate them, challenge to compete with them, disagree with them, and unfortunately abuse them because it makes some of them feel alive, they said they felt like they “deserved it”, which that one statement I heard, I am not going to lie, that was very shocking words to hear.

So the answer is, regardless of our doubts, is the unescapable fact, time in and again proven 110 percent true, is women choose those men to get involved with who abuse them and treat them badly, as trying to convince them otherwise, which I mistakenly tried and got yelled at by them for it, is met with verbal hostility because they feel completely content and comfortable with that guy. It is what those types of women comfortably perfer over all the other men out there.